THE PROCESS OF LIFE & DEATH
Buddha said Life is suffering (First Noble Truth). I realized that as age progresses suffering rises. Death is the welcome & painless release from suffering. Suffering is generated by desire (Second Noble Truth).
Desire creates Liability- such as Educational slogging, Career pressures, Marital commitments, Children liabilities & duties & Financial burdens. Age creates Health issues, Worldly misfortunes & Mental Complexes. Mental Complexes progress with age & include- Freudian/ Sexual complex, Ageing complex, Hierarchy complex, Retirement & Alienation complex.
Reduce your liabilities and you will not suffer as much. Enter into Education, Career, and Marriage & bear Children & be ready to face the responsibilities of desire & complications of liability. Choosing the Middle way of Moderation is the rule. (Fourth Noble Truth)
Life progresses in following interwoven five stages.
Under 15 years - You are Naïve & ever ready for Risks & Change - Hostel, Career, Overseas Education
Under 30 years -You are Enthusiastic with what Life offers- Career, Marriage, etc
Under 45 years -You are Angry with ageing process of Greying, Obesity, Pot belly etc. You progress in Career & Wealth as your Anger is redirected into productivity.
Under 60 years - You are in an accepting stage at peace with the world. The rising health insecurities & Doctor replenish your wealth.
Under 75 years - You are in depression and are ready to barter your wealth for love or feinted affection.
A few mentally evolved will identify the stages & evolve in their mind & tread carefully with moderate actions.
As we near our predetermined Death - when our allotted quota of breath is over, we are usually a mesh of various sufferings, unconsciously seeking a release but not knowing it is death- the final release.
When a person is dying, we look at it from the living perspective. The dying looks at it from the departing perspective, welcoming it as departure from suffering- Release or a long fulfilled life with no unfulfilled aspirations left to carry on- Nirvana. The living would perceive a desired death as ’depression’ but the dying would see it as ’detachment’
HEALTH is defined as Man’s ability to Eat, Drink, Sleep, pass Stools & Urine, Locomote, Use all senses, Sleep & Think. DISEASE is disruption of Health. DEATH is the unconnected end of life process triggered from within the body (unless it’s a unnatural death)
DISEASE causes suffering. A dying man may not have any disease suffering but may suffer from other problems of life. Its democratic! The suffering level of disease can be objectified.
Death is always a painless Cardiac Arrest & stopping of all human systems by pre planned & coordinated cellular timing.
Death is painless & UNRELATED to DISEASE PROCESS. DISEASE Process is related to AGE-ING (old age is the last phase of whatever is a biologically predetermined duration)
Death can come AFTER disease of three durations while having no relation to it.
a) Sudden -pre death disease under 2 hours
b) Acute - pre death disease under 2 days
c) Chronic - pre death disease under 2 weeks
MENTAL STAGES A DYING PERSON UNDERGOES is described: Ideal Responses to the dying are as suggested.
STAGE 1 - ATTACHMENT & FEAR - the fears of death & apprehension of suffering is maximum as person craves for LIFE.
Response- Allay the fears, give love & security & treatment (as you don’t know he is dying)
STAGE 2 - SUBMISSION & RESIGNATION - Giving in to illness & resigning from hope of recovery.
Response- Give comfort to body & company to mind
STAGE 3 - DETACHMENT & LOVE - Detaching from loved ones, assets & from own body. Since you DETACH FROM LIFE, YOU DON’T SUFFER, but are filled with love & appreciation for all people & wonders of life u never appreciated fully before.
Response- Allow the dying to detach by detaching yourself. Do not CRY or Show your insecurity as the dying will be guilt ridden & feel duty bound to stay back. The Dying don’t like to see sadness & want a happy ambience. Love the dying as much as you can by talking, spending time & complimenting them on a fulfilled life. Don’t be scared or show sympathy to suffering that u see--- as u see it from the living perspective, whereas the dying don’t mind, as they see suffering from the detached perspective & Life from the parting perspective.
Attitude to your self - Sadness - mourn the loss of a companion, a traveller, a good being.
Attitude to Dying - Gratitude - be grateful for the company, the travel but don’t be sorry for him.
Attitude to Life - Celebrate - the fulfilment of one’s journey & don’t be afraid of death but understand it.
GRADATION OF SUFFERING.
||Sleepless & Fits
||Indoor for 2 months
||Bedsores, Pneumonia, UTI,
||Expiration Breathlessness Status
|Eat & Drink
||No Food for a week
||No Water for 3 days
||Diarrhoea to lower BP
||Paralytic Ileus or Obstruction
||Persistent High Fever 104 with Chills
||Septicemia Fever above 104
||Water overload with Ascites Edema
||Shock or Hemmorhage
||Severe with Vomiting & Sweating
||Unconscious with Groans
||Breathless in indoor activity
||Breathless at rest
SEVERE SUFFERRING -1 MAJOR and MANY (3) MINOR OR 2 MAJOR
MODERATE SUFFERRING - 1 MAJOR ONLY MILD SUFFERRING - MANY (3) MINOR ONLY
Less than 3 MINOR - TOLERABLE By
Prof. Dr. DR - in memory of my companion & best friend Drago - who taught me the last lesson.